Posts tagged idiot compassion
WHEN COMPASSION ISN'T KIND

Compassion and empathy can be a drain when the energetic balance swings to over-care, and becomes more about ourselves than the other person.

Buddhist teacher Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche calls it "idiot compassion."

In the book, Radical Candor, author Kim Scott calls it "ruinous empathy."

It's also called "spiritual materialism."

Ouch, harsh word choices.

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WHEN YOU THINK YOUR CUDDLING, YOU COULD BE CODDLING

CODDLE OR CUDDLE?

One of the tips my dog trainer gave me was to make the distinction between coddling and cuddling.

Coddling: If your pup is agitated, scared or anxious, acknowledge it. But don’t respond by reflecting that same energy. Don’t go into a downward spiral of “oh poor baby, what’s the matter, I will protect you.” Acknowledge her, and keep elevated. Tell her she’s okay and you keep calm to raise her energy back to calm, submissive and centered.

Cuddling is of course, showing love and affection without any drama or self-induced emotion. Cuddling is neutral and empowered.

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